AUTHENTIC CONFIDENCEDiscovering Your Full PotentialIt amazes me how much misleading information there is on this subject. The hairs on the back of my neck stand up and I cringe when I hear people say you should FAKE confidence or build muscles or dress better. While it is true that these are inital steps that get you to feel more on top of your game, the bottom line is that you can say "I am the MAN" a million fu¢king times and dress the part but ultimately, where does that leave you? At the end of the day, all you are is a damn sheep in wolf's clothing! So what is the deal here ... what the hell is true confidence and how do we cultivate it? I mean, sure we've all heard that confidence comes from within, but that is a pretty vague way of looking at things, dontcha think? "WITHIN" happens to be a vast realm of complex thoughts, desires, confusion and God-knows-what...$hit it would be a lot easier to find it OUTSIDE ourselves, hence all this misleading advice. But alas, my dear friend, the cliché is true and you must earn confidence the hard way. It is time to dig deep within your soul and discover the treasure of authentic confidence. If you don't have the balls to confront all your fears, misgivings and realize your full potential, then by all means keep buying more clothes and giving yourself daily affirmations till you are twitching in an Armani strait-jacket at the funny farm. For the rest of you brave DJs out there, let us take a step into the Self and see if we can deprogram the mess of twisted circuits that have made you doubt yourself for so long. YOU ARE NOT THE MAN Yes you read correctly. You are "A" man. No better than anyone else. This is the biggest lie society has ever fed you. In fact it is the single most destructive mentality on earth! Let's take a cosmic step back from ourselves and look at the big picture here. Mankind shows up on the evolutionary scene. Thinks to himself how great he is and decides to craft the creator of the universe in his own image. Builds empires and enslaves millions of his own kind. Destroys his environment. Commits genocide. Eliminates entire species for sport and profit. What is the root of such destructive behavior? Answer: A total disregard of others and isolation/elevation of the Self. What is the root of this self-importance? Profoundly suppressed insecurity and fear, which only leads to more assertions of the Self. And so the cycle feeds on itself until a fortunate few break their own conditioning and see the bigger picture. Authentic confidence is not blind narcissism! Yes you are amazing..but so is everyone else! This is not to say that you won't be successful with women by having a superiority complex. Hell, I know a lot of arrogant pricks who get tons of pússy. To many of you this might sound like the Holy Grail of Happiness. But if you take a close look at these so-called DJs, you will find some of the most miserable, insecure people you have ever met, who only use their sexual prowess to mask their weakness and reinforce their egos because they have nothing else going on in their lives. You are capable of so much more than this, my dear friend! THE ALPHA MISCONCEPTION I can't help but laugh at all these DJs trying to project alpha status without anything more substantial than a superficial attitude. "I dress nice, I have bulging muscles, I am alpha, hear me roar!" Yeah, whatever you say dawg. If you are going to emulate the social structures of nature, then I say go the whole nine yards. Try going out into the wild with 20 of your boys and survive for a month and then talk to me about how alpha you are! OK maybe that is a little extreme, but for the sake of argument, let's look at a pack of wolves and see what determines alpha status. The alpha male is the biggest, baddest most skilled hunter of the pack. He commands respect for a very good reason. The other wolves do not follow his lead based only on his physical traits, but mainly because he is a bad-ass motherfu¢ker with sharp instincts and a large set of wolf balls! You can bet your ass that the alpha doesn't need to remind himself he is the $hit or preen his fur to get wolf bit¢hes! So this raises a good question that you need to ask yourself. Aside from projecting a certain attitude or look, what makes you so damn special that you command respect and admiration? Here's a hint: Nobody, not other people, not yourself and certainly not wolves, will respect you for your words, appearances or attitudes. It is what you DO that counts! ACTIONS define who you are, how you see yourself and how others relate to you. So what actions will build confidence? Befriending everyone you meet and developing your social instincts is a great place to start. But what actions will make you SHINE with authentic confidence? The answer to that is the most infamous questions of all time... |
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