The Power of Detachment"Should I call her?" "She said _______. What does this mean?" "Does she like me?" These are all signs of attachment. Her responses and perceptions of them should not matter this much, but like I said, these guys are wusses and they get their panties in a wad over the smallest things. I try to give them advice but they don't want to hear it. It's almost as if they are emotional masochists who enjoy being stepped on. Poor bastards. If you don't want to end up like these nutless wonders, take the following words to heart 1. There are more important things to think about in life than whether a girl likes you or not. 2. For every girl that wants to be "friends" there is another who wants to tear your clothes off. 3. Women are excellent at reading your vibe and can smell suckers from a mile away. If you exude neediness she will lose attraction because clinginess is not sexy! Stop needing her so much! 4. On the other hand, if you exude detachment, she will wonder about you and when you do give her that attention, she will actually appreciate it. A really important thing to remember is that: When you let a woman dominate your state of mind, you are giving up your manhood. That's right. You may as well cut your nuts off and let her wear them as earrings, cuz you are now officially her bytch! Think about this. In just about every relationship you see there is an inbalance of interest level. One person is almost always more into the other. I can confirm this from personal experience cuz for too long, I was the one who was totally head over heels. After getting burned, I wised up to the folly of blind romance and realized that real love does not = attachment. In time my focus shifted off of women and onto my ambitions and social life. During this time, I still loved my new girlfriends, but in a more detached way. I had my own life, my own friends and there would be days, sometimes weeks when we wouldn't see each other. As David D would say, I gave them the gift of missing me. The 3 girlfriends who I treated this way became the ones with the higher interest level. In fact, I still get phonecalls from these chicks! Why do they sweat me so? Simple. Because I never gave them my personal power. My happiness did not depend on them and I didn't let myself fall under their control. I showed love but didn't let their moods/tantrums sway me. For example: The Old Me ME: I feel like a night out. Let's go hit up the Mexican spot. HER: I don't wanna eat Mexican ME: Hmm okay..how about the Thai place HER: I hate Thai ME: But you ate there a few weeks ago and said you loved it! (Keep offering her suggestions in an effort to appease her till she gets all pissy and we get into a stupid fight, at which point I cave to her lazy whims and we order pizza) |
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